As Soon As He\'s Ready

What happens to us men when our sons cannot fulfill our dreams, our expectations for them? What happens when the boy we dreamed of becomes one who will never throw a ball, never ride a bike, never go wading through the rivers, never play football with us? What happens when we cannot teach our boys to drive a car? What happens when we discover our boys may never have the opportunity to grow up to be men?

It takes courage
To examine our lives.

Are we men ready
To look through new eyes?

We men tend to ďlook toward tomorrowĒ when our sons can fulfill our dreams and expectations. But let us not look too far away or hold our dreams above our love and obligation* to our family. For it is not a boyís responsibility to meet or exceed expectations, that is the responsibility of a man.

*Yes, ďObligationĒ.(Also see The Clearest Image of a Man.)

 

As Soon As Heís Ready by Rich Clingman (06/15/01)

 

Of course, DearÖ,

 

I know Iím his father,
And Iím ready to start.

As soon as heís ready,
Iíll do my part.

 

 

He really is cute!
But heís really too small.

Just as soon as heís ready,
Weíll have a ball!

 

But for now, donít you see?
The jobís really Momís.

But as soon as heís ready,
Dadís got open arms.

 

For Momís job is full
Of the day-to-day stuff.

But the fatherís job
Is much more tough.

 

Iíll teach him to throw,
Help him ride a bike,

And as soon as heís ready,
Weíll go on a hike.

 

 

First day of school?
I canít take him today.

But as soon as heís ready
To run bases, weíll play.

 

I know heís got problems,
But donít dwell on that, Dear.

And as soon as heís ready,
Iíll be right here.

 

The doctorís appointments?
You can handle that.

And as soon as heís ready,
Weíll swing a bat.

 

See, Iím always supportive,
For thatís a Dadís job,

And as soon as heís ready,
Weíll fish with a rod.

 

 

Fifth grade science?
Now that job is Dadís!

So as soon as heís ready,
Weíll walk through some labs!

 

Iím sorry, Dear,
Heís just much too slow,

But as soon as heís ready,
We really will go.

 

 

High school football?
OhÖ, announcing the gameÖ

Well, as soon as heís ready,
Something not so lame,

 

See, when he is playing
You know I will care,

So as soon as heís ready
Iíll be right there.

 

The auditorium?
To watch him debate?

No, as soon as heís ready
To graduate.

 

 

Take the boy out?
He needs Mommyís care.

But as soon as heís ready,
Dad will be there.

 

I know he is older,
Almost sixteen,

And as soon as heís ready,
For the dating sceneÖ

 

But itís not my job
To give him a ride,

So as soon as heís ready,
Iíll teach him to drive.

 

 

Heís going to dance?
A boy in a 'chair?

SureÖ, as soon as heís ready,
You take him there.

 

 

Heís angry at me?
Whose broken whose dreams?

As soon as heís ready,
Heíll stop his screams.

 

See, Iíve worked very hard
To make his life grand,

And as soon as heís ready,
Heíll understand.

 

 

NoÖ, the hospitalís too crowded,
Iíll talk on this phone,

But as soon as heís ready,
You bring him home.

 

They will try everything
That money can buy,

But as soon as heís readyÖ

 

 

We are now by his side,
Our boyís life is dim,

And as soon as heís ready,
We will bury him.

 

I honestly thought
Weíd do more one day,

But since he was ready,
Angels took him away.


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